Where there is hope, there is fear.
Is fear negative? Maybe not always.
Negative thoughts means bad or harmful thoughts. Mind is like water, you can put anything in it. You can pollute it. You can feel light, you can feel heavy because of the thoughts you carry.
When some negative thoughts comes to our mind, we can stop thinking by diverting our attention to something else. But certain thoughts take control over us and that disturbs our sleep and health.
To manage negative thoughts we must try to understand the roots of those thoughts. Are we worried about the consequences of our actions done? Are we caught in a dilemma to do or not to do and afraid of the consequences if actions are not taken.
When we don’t know whom to trust, we talk to ourselves and could be overwhelmed by our own guesses and conjectures.
If possible we can discuss it with someone whom we know. Or ask the world as an anonymous person and so on.
For example, people are often confused about marriage or marriage with someone. Now, such decisions need to be postponed if one is confused. One should take some time. In marriage, there cannot be hurrying up. As such marriage is never something that one dreams it to be.
Marriage is an organic relationship. It is lived. But people make it a deal, a business deal, a career deal, an opportunity, a trap.
Some people treat it as an escape. If it is any of the above, it is a suffering.
Marriage is an organic relationship which strengthens over the years. It has to go through the tests of time – knowing, respecting, growth with shared values. So, fear of loss in a marriage can never give happiness to anyone. It has to be lived. Negative thoughts can put a strain on the relationship.
Positive thoughts does not mean think positive, it means do positive things and it will make you optimistic and happy. So think what you want to say and why you want to say it. Does it benefit either of you? If it hurts either of you better not to go with such thoughts. Take up that which is meaningful.
Everything for the first time makes us nervous. It could be a new project. It could be anything. We can reach out for help and do whatever we can. At the max, one could be fired but you learn something which is important. The fear of failure should not keep us back.
